Assess your tendencies and make a plan for a less stressful moving day

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As someone who’s moved four times in the past four years, I tend to agree with the expression “Change your place, change your luck.” To me, moving always feels like a new beginning, an opportunity to shed the past and start fresh. But even as I’ve left cities, homes, and furniture behind, I’ve found that it’s not as easy to say goodbye to old habits.

We all have different moving styles — some people spend hours planning and organizing, while others might haphazardly throw everything in boxes — but almost all moves have one thing in common: They’re stressful. And often, moving feels like a vicious cycle of aggravation. The stress stirs up those latent bad habits, which, in turn, just make everything worse. …

Why emulating your younger self could help you move better

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After a certain age, balance no longer comes naturally and requires more cognition and awareness for its preservation. Moreover, the mind-body connection is central to one’s equilibrium, with lack of poise suggesting balance issues may be present. Brad Manor, PhD, associate director of the Mobility and Falls Translational Research Center with Harvard-affiliated Hebrew SeniorLife, calls balance “a complex system” involving many factors. “As people age, changes in flexibility, muscle strength and power, body sensation, reflexes, and even mental function all contribute to declining balance.”

Conversely, small children exemplify balance and poise effortlessly. They can run, play, get up, sit back down, and do all of it again several times over with great ease and mobility. Toddlers maintain upright posture without difficulty (thanks to good balance and coordination) because they haven’t yet been exposed to excessive sitting — particularly sitting in chairs. School is the first place young children learn to sit for hours on end, which negatively impacts their developing bodies. …

If there’s one thing we need more of it’s doing less. While the pandemic may have disrupted old routines, it didn’t shut down old habits. The desire to get things done has only adapted and possibly intensified. For many, isolation creates a greater need to be seen and accomplished.

If you find yourself exhausted by doing more even though you’re spending most of your time at home, you’re not alone. Eve Bernfeld gives insight as to why adding things to an already long list of to-dos is something many struggle with and why the paradigm of “self-care” is really about addition. …

How to make the relationship with your sitting chum a healthy one.

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Chairs create an interesting conundrum: when you see one, you want to sit in it, but once you’re sitting, you can’t wait to get out. No matter how fancy or cozy they claim to be — even those luxe or ergonomic chairs that cost a fortune — after 1, 2, 3…or 8 hours in them, you can’t take the actual sitting part out of the equation.

Why is it no matter how often you shift positions, cross your legs, sway, rock, lean forward, lean back, arch your back, slouch, use a cushion under, to the side, behind..…just …

Welcome to Body Wisdom, a newsletter discussing the mind-body connection and its relationship to health and well-being. Feel free to forward our publication to your most mindful friends.

It’s been an exciting year for us at Body Wisdom! We’ve brought an array of valuable content to our publication from skilled professionals addressing popular and relevant health topics.

We also just launched our Body Wisdom Podcast where you can continue to engage in the discussion of the mind-body connection and how the relationship impacts every aspect of life.

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Here are some highlights from our community:

“The Core Strength Myth” by Adrian Farrell

“Why Am I Apologizing?” …

You are the original badass

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If it weren’t for a post I saw on Facebook, I would not have known today was Mother’s Day. And yet, when I realized it was this weekend, I was not amused. One. More. Thing. To. Do.

I don’t have the energy to get the house ready for ‘my day’ to celebrate ‘me’ because truthfully looking at the pile of clean laundry that has been growing on my coffee table for the past two months doesn’t put me in the mood. …

How we are surprising ourselves with our incredible ability to change and adapt in the midst of uncertainty.

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Like many of you, the Coronavirus has changed my routine. ‘Freedom’ has taken on new meaning. ‘Going outside’ is the new vacation spot to tout on Facebook. Fresh air has become a commodity — an underrated privilege as much as a bare necessity.

There are many ways to interpret this unusual time. Is it a punishment? An enlightenment? A wake-up call? Who knows. Whatever it is or isn’t, it has shaken the world to its core. And while it has brought out the best in many, it has also resurfaced our innermost fears. Most notably our fear of the unknown.

Yet, despite that fear, I’m amazed by how readily and seemingly effortlessly many of us have been able to stop in our tracks. Let go of our ‘to-dos’ and steer forward without a plan. …

Why Criticism Doesn’t Foster Change

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This story is part of the Mental Health Library, a series on Mental Health from Psych Central.

Childhood can be the sweetest of times, especially when enriched by loving family and friends and strong support systems. However, even with the best circumstances, children rarely come out unscathed, particularly in cultures which perpetuate an incessant need for acceptance offset by impossibly high expectations. While caring parents aim to guide their children through life and the emotional roller-coasters that ensue, well-meaning advice is often misconstrued or entirely ignored.

For example, the last thing an adolescent wants to hear is a comment about their body, even if the intentions are good. The majority of kids are well aware of what their bodies look like physically, even if they aren’t nearly as mindful of how their behaviors come across to others. I remember cringing whenever I was once told, “You kids care so much about what your friends think of you.” I didn’t think grown-ups had a clue about my life, and I immediately dismissed what they said as “old folk” blabber. …

How observing their body habits early in the day can offset undesired behaviors later on.

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Mornings — with kids — can be hectic. Getting out of the door (on time!) while trying to be mindful of filling their bellies with nutritious food, reminding them about their dental hygiene, and providing them with clean (and matching) socks seems like more than enough to accomplish first thing in the day. However, even with the greatest intentions, in the midst of the rush, there are many moments we often miss with our children. Perhaps most notably, observing the way they eat their first meal.

Take a moment to picture your child as you imagine them munching on their breakfast. Whatever that image looks like in your mind, try to think about what their back looks like while seated in their chair. Are they sitting tall or small? Moreover, how are their heads balanced on top of their bodies? Are they placed forward, centered, or back? Now, try to remember that image as you observe them the next time they sit and eat. …


Tami Bulmash

Author, iPosture: A Closer Look at the Lifestyle Practices of Children and coauthor of Amazon bestseller, Heart & Soul. More at

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